an Anniversary Special

August 2020 we will be celebrating 6 years since we got married at the court, and 4 years since we said our vows at the church. And boy can I say marriage is no walk in the park! Quick background story, my husband and I started our relationship long distance, and once we got married he came over to the United States. So we didn’t have the traditional courtship/dating or the traditional engagement period most couples have.

Let me tell you, marriage takes resilience. It takes two people who are willing to spend a lifetime learning about their spouse. Marriage requires you to fall in love over and over again with your spouse. I am sure you have heard over and over again that EFFECTIVE communication is key in marriages, well it is true. Just think about it for a second, how are two people suppose to do life together if they don’t communicate properly? It would be pure chaos. Aside from all of that, the main thing that every marriage needs is GOD. If you put God in the center of your marriage and take all of your marital problems to him, I am sure your marriage will continue to thrive.

Now with everything in life there is good and bad, so also in marriage. All marriages have good days and bad days. We can only hope and pray that we have more of the good days and very few bad days. Below are some tips to keep the good days coming.

1. Be friends. Obvious right? But you will be surprised how many people don’t consider their spouse a friend. This is something that should be established early on, if not it can make marriage very hard. So work on your friendship with your spouse.
2. Have fun. Life is hard enough, so take the time to have fun and enjoy it, and each other! Flirt, go on dates, dance, JUST. HAVE. FUN.
3. Learn each other’s love language. It is very hard when to communicate with someone when you don’t speak the same language. Same goes for love, you need to learn how your spouse loves to be loved. Gary Chapman has several books, and even a quiz on his site that helps you to learn you and your spouse’s love language.
4. Practice EFFECTIVE communication. I mentioned this above, but I had to mention it again. If you communicate effectively with your spouse it will eliminate unnecessary problems that tend to build up over time.
5. Pray about it.Often times we are quick to talk to our family or friends about our marital problems, but the one we should be talking to is God. Take your problems to him.

My marriage isn’t perfect, but one thing I can tell you is that my husband and I make an effort to work on it daily. Do we fail sometimes? Of course! The main thing is to keep on working to make it better. I am so grateful that God sent me this man. He is far from perfect, but he is everything I needed and more. Looking forward to 100+ years with you.

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